The lesson that life is hard is one that my journey has taught me repeatedly – throughout my Roaring Twenties and well into this present moment😥
So much so that I’ve had to reconsider everything I once believed to be true. It’s been a whirlwind of unlearning, questioning, and rediscovering — painful at times, but deeply meaningful. After every tough encounter, I’ve found myself asking:
“What’s the point of life?” ⁉️
And truthfully, I still don’t know. I’ve simply decided to make peace with not knowing, and instead, throw myself into studying life itself…
Ok, here’s some context – I’ve recently gone back to school, not just to lecture (as mentioned in Bold & Beautiful Beginnings), but also as a student again. This return to academia has reignited the researcher in me 🕵🏾♀️
Life’s experiences have pushed me to question everything:
my belief system, my sense of purpose, even the future of the earth itself. It’s been disorienting, yes — but also liberating. Because in losing my old certainties, I’ve found space to breathe again 🌬️
As I’ve shared in Living With Depression & Anxiety, this hasn’t been an easy journey. I’ve had to prioritise my mental, emotional, and physical health — and remind myself daily to move with patience, grace, and gentleness 🧘🏾♀️
Here’s my truth: I still don’t have the answers to the questions that have haunted me for a decade. And yes — that’s unsettling. But what I’ve decided is that I’ll treat life as a research study, which means I’m allowed to have assumptions, to make hypotheses, and to question everything — knowing that the final conclusion will only come at the very end of the study 📚
Experience — whether our own or someone else’s — reminds us over and over again that life is hard.
So what? Now that we know this what will we do with that truth?
Complain?
Learn?
Grow?
What? It’s absolutely up to us 🙌🏾
Yours (but mine first),
Hey Aphsie. This has been a pleasure to read. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in writing, and the best of luck with your current studies. Life is hard, and so what? I would like to add to this and my experience about this life thing. And what I have consoled myself with. Is that life was never meant to be easy? And with that said, you journey on with all the amazing things that are happening for you and the blessings God has continuously shown up for you. And never stop praying about that one or two aspects of your life that’s misplaced, rather…that one thing that’s making life hard. I’ve also made peace that I am not perfect, and I should show up with grace every day, even if I don’t want to. Thank you for this platform, sis. And I pray you’re well. I’m deeply sorry I missed your birthday
Your reflection is so grounding and beautifully honest D, and thank you for the birthday wishes too — no worries at all 🥳❤️🔥
Thank you for sharing this piece. It really resonated with me especially the idea that we might not always have the answers, but we can still move forward. In my own journey I’ve faced moments of anxiety and uncertainty where I questioned everything I believed, much like you describe. Embracing the hard times and using them as part of the research of life feels like a powerful shift. I’m inspired to keep going, ask the tough questions, and learn through doing rather than waiting for perfect clarity. This is such a wonderful reminder, thank you
That’s such a heartfelt and thoughtful reflection — thank you so much for sharing it boo❣️ So glad this piece resonated with you – here’s to embracing uncertainty, learning through experience, and trusting that clarity will find us along the way 🥂