I find the concept of Self-love to be a bit of a mystery – don’t you? What I find mysterious about Self-love is that we tend to be selective about it. I mean, one of the most known things on planet earth is that humans love themselves 🥰
We love ourselves so much that we have made it an English grammar rule that when you refer to yourself, in writing, you have to use a capital letter ‘I’ and not just a measly lowercase ‘i’… Why? To show the importance self, of course 🤷🏾♀
Also, loving ourselves is the reason why we initially find self-harming (i.e. wrist slitting, etc.) so impossible to do! I mean even our Heavenly Father uses the way we love ourselves as a measuring guide to how we should be loving others 🤗
Though, even with all of these real-life illustrations of how we should be loving ourselves, we continue to do a disservice to ourselves…
We continue to commit to our love-less, holistically abusive and overall depressing relationships 💔
We continue to be the first ones to give our ALL to our partners, family and friends, yet we won’t invest in ourselves 🙅🏾♀
We continue to disregard the importance of singleness, and instead see it as some form of punishment or disgrace – as if being in a relationship or being married is somewhat the most ideal life experience 😩
I am now persuaded, beyond reasonable doubt, that the most ideal love situation is centred around your self-value. I believe that once you start loving yourself:
You Value Your Time More
The more time you spend with yourself – by yourself – is the more you realise just how awesome you are 😎
Not only that, but once you realise what makes you a happier person – you stop doing everything that brings you no joy. You tend to spend your time only with those that value it 🌹
You Realise All You Need Is Within
Once you start loving yourself you realise that this is ACTUALLY all the love you’ve been longing for this whole time 🥰
You realise that it was actually your approval of you that you really needed – your own embrace was what you craved for and that becomes enough for you 😌
You Know What You Want
Once you start loving yourself it empowers you to see that knowing just what you don’t want is not enough…
You allow yourself to do some introspection and learn what your preferences are and furthermore which type of person would better compliment you 💕
You Become A Better Lover
Once you start loving yourself you automatically become a fitter opponent for the game of love 💋
Think about it – knowing, loving and appreciating yourself will inspire you to spread that genuine love, which will result in you providing the best love-experience for others too 🙌🏾
Having said all of that, I can now boldly proclaim that: “My name is Aphelele Chonco and I advocate for Self-Love this Valentines” ❤️🔥
Yours – but mine first,
Aphsie ♥︎
P.S. Thanks for having a read & I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this topic below…
Self love was a bit of a mystery to me pre-baby. Now I GET it. It’s the simple things for me like filing and painting my nails or plaiting and doing my hair – they make alll the difference
Rosie
You’re so right sis – the little things are actually the greatest 🙌🏾
Great post on self reflection & love!! ❤️ May God bless & keep you on your journey in life & abundantly prosper your ministry. Thanks for sharing 😊
It’s such a pleasure & thanks for your blessings – I receive 🙌🏾
HEAVY on the knowing what you want! Life becomes so much more clear and actually easier in a way, the more self love that you have. Love this 🥰
Agreed – self-love is the gift that keeps on giving 🎁
Love this post and couldn’t agree more. Self-love is hard. It’s not just an easy fix and you can’t just snap your fingers and it’s done. It’s a hard fight to learn to love yourself after years of self-hate! But once you get there, things get easier!
You’re spot on – couldn’t have said it better 💯 Bless you & your journey 🤍
This was a lovely exploration of self-love and how important it is to our well-being. Thank you so much for sharing this; it was the reminder I needed!
It’s such a pleasure & I’m glad you could relate – bless you 🤍